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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, Shot you a PM. Hope things are well on your end.   
    Shot you a PM. Hope things are well on your end. 
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, Fighting evil by moonlight.   
    Fighting evil by moonlight.
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    Roen reacted to Malintzin for a status update, Acta non verba. Words do very little when underscored by cruel actions with cruel int   
    Acta non verba. Words do very little when underscored by cruel actions with cruel intentions. Betrayal comes at the cost of trust. Words are worthless currency, then. Action is worth its weight in gold.
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    Roen got a reaction from danzilla3 for a status update, When it comes to love, men have an active role while women have a passive one. What a   
    When it comes to love, men have an active role while women have a passive one. What are the implications of this? It means that what a woman feels as the ups and downs, the mystery, the unknown, the excitement, etc., all things that define "blossoming" love, are things that happen to her. She is passive, she is the recipient. Her agency is contained in her response to those things. 

    But for a man, anything that makes "love" progress (or regress) basically and directly stems from one of his actions. He does something or initiates and a woman responds/reciprocates. Because he does not have the gendered luxury of taking a backseat or passive role and watching things happen (if he does, nothing will; the woman will lose interest), he begins, by necessity, to view love as the cause and effect relationship that it more accurate is in reality (he does something, woman responds.)

    Seeing something like that this takes the "magic" out of it. Compare it to seeing the sun rise every day. It becomes a lot less mystical, exciting, and dramatic when you know exactly why it happens and can simply see it for the cause and effect relationship it truly is. You may even begin to take it for granted. 

    This is why romance eventually becomes unromantic for men. Romance is not a phenomenon, but instead a verb; it's a series of actions carried out by a man to earn a woman's affections. It is labor. 

    Men who aren't used to being pursued are usually confused or thrown off by the reversal of gendered roles. The result is the prevailing idea that men do not respond well to being approached first by women or even biographical accounts from men describing instances where they couldn't respond well even if they were attracted to the woman approaching them. This is the men being shocked out of the traditional script of romance. 

    When you talk about women pursuing men, that usually happens in a markedly different fashion than the way in which men pursue women. A woman "aggressively" pursuing a man looks more like said woman going to extensive lengths to make it clear that she is available for pursuit rather than actively pursuing; the man is still usually leading things forward in some manner by handling the logistics of this romance. 

    The Male Romantic Fantasy 

    I would say that men usually feel most loved when this normal state of affairs is negated; when they are made to believe that a woman's love is not conditional in the cause-and-effect manner described above. Love is work for men, but it can be rewarding work when things are going smoothly and the woman is happy as a result. But the male romantic fantasy is to be shown that the woman feels the same way and stands by him when he's down on his luck, when the money is not there, or when he's not feeling confident. He wants to know that the love he believes he's earned will stay even when the actions that feed it wane (however temporarily). A good woman can often lift a man up in his times of need and desperation and weather the storm even when things are not going well. The male romantic fantasy is an enduring and unconditional love that seems to defy this relationship of labor and reward. A man wants to be loved for who he is, not for what he does in order to be loved. 

    An interesting way to examine this is to look at what women often call romantic entitlement. An entitled man is a guy who maintains an unrealistic notion of men's typically active role in love. Before acknowledging reality, this man uncompromisingly believes that he shouldn't have to do anything or change anything about himself to earn a woman's love; he wants to be loved for who he is, not what he does. 

    All men secretly want this, but there comes a day when they eventually compromise out of necessity. After that day, they may spend years honing themselves, working, shaping themselves into the men they believe women want to be chosen by. A massive part of what causes boys to "grow up" is the realization that being loved requires hard work. This impetus begins a journey where a boy grows into a man by gaining strength, knowledge, recourses, and wisdom. The harsh realities of the world might harden and change him into a person his boyhood self wouldn't recognize. He might adopt viewpoints he doesn't agree with, transgress his personal boundaries, or commit acts he previously thought himself incapable of. But ultimately, the goal is to feel as if his work is done. 

    When he can finally let go of the crank he turns day after day in order to earn love and, even if only for a moment, it turns by itself to nourish him in return, that is when he will know he is loved. 
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    Roen got a reaction from Ace for a status update, But if my silence made you leave Then that would be my worst mistake So I will share   
    But if my silence made you leave
    Then that would be my worst mistake
    So I will share this room with you
    And you can have this heart to break
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    Roen got a reaction from Ace for a status update, What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in   
    What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in a naked land and bred in the open sky. The subtle tongue, the sophist guile, they fail when the broadswords sing; Rush in and die, dogs—I was a man before I was a king.
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    Roen got a reaction from Trashbender for a status update, What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in   
    What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in a naked land and bred in the open sky. The subtle tongue, the sophist guile, they fail when the broadswords sing; Rush in and die, dogs—I was a man before I was a king.
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in   
    What do I know of cultured ways, the gilt, the craft and the lie? I, who was born in a naked land and bred in the open sky. The subtle tongue, the sophist guile, they fail when the broadswords sing; Rush in and die, dogs—I was a man before I was a king.
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, I-I am going to be a storm-a flame- I need to fight whole armies alone; I have ten he   
    I-I am going to be a storm-a flame-
    I need to fight whole armies alone;
    I have ten hearts; I have a hundred arms;
    I feel too strong to war with mortals-
    bring me giants!
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, Anger, which, far sweeter than trickling drops of honey, rises in the bosom of a man   
    Anger, which, far sweeter than trickling drops of honey, rises in the bosom of a man like smoke.
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, The world needs great heroes, but for the time being, you lot will have to do.   
    The world needs great heroes, but for the time being, you lot will have to do.  
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    Roen got a reaction from Ace for a status update, The world needs great heroes, but for the time being, you lot will have to do.   
    The world needs great heroes, but for the time being, you lot will have to do.  
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    Roen got a reaction from -Lilium- for a status update, Control is knowing what we have and what we want. Power is having something someone e   
    Control is knowing what we have and what we want. Power is having something someone else wants but cannot have. 
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    Roen got a reaction from Velindrel for a status update, Control is knowing what we have and what we want. Power is having something someone e   
    Control is knowing what we have and what we want. Power is having something someone else wants but cannot have. 
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    Roen got a reaction from Dabi for a status update, I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my ca   
    I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my calm. Regular commentary and irregular posts will continue after this brief brush with death.
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    Roen got a reaction from jaistlyn for a status update, I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my ca   
    I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my calm. Regular commentary and irregular posts will continue after this brief brush with death.
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    Roen got a reaction from Shatter for a status update, I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my ca   
    I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my calm. Regular commentary and irregular posts will continue after this brief brush with death.
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    Roen got a reaction from Phoebe for a status update, I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my ca   
    I am sorry for being missing in action, but I’ve been very sick. It has damaged my calm. Regular commentary and irregular posts will continue after this brief brush with death.
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    Roen reacted to Mackenzie Rose for a status update, Head-shot of OC: Grace Harlock   
    Head-shot of OC: Grace Harlock 

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    Roen got a reaction from Eternity for a status update, My love, my love, my fearless love I will not say goodbye Sea may rise, sky may fall   
    My love, my love, my fearless love
    I will not say goodbye
    Sea may rise, sky may fall
    My love will never die
    Go on, go on, go bravely on
    Into the blackest night
    Hold my breath ‘til your return
    My love will never die
    My heart, my heart, my drowning heart
    Oh, all the tears I've cried
    Oh, I may weep forevermore
    My love will never die
    My love, my love, my fearless love
    I will not say goodbye
    Sea may rise, sky may fall
    My love will never die
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    Roen reacted to elixir for a status update, Casually thinking about doing a solo thread in a script-like format.   
    Casually thinking about doing a solo thread in a script-like format.
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    Roen reacted to Ace for a status update, This is my apology to all you folk. I said I wouldn't disappear again, then I got my   
    This is my apology to all you folk. I said I wouldn't disappear again, then I got my first teaching position and it completely took over my life. :( Regrets! I'm sorry. 
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    Roen reacted to Houndy Poochykins for a status update, I'm brand new, and willing to talk over Discord. Heckapupper#0261   
    I'm brand new, and willing to talk over Discord. Heckapupper#0261

     
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    Roen reacted to Fierach for a status update, Lore Blurb: In the depths of the Dawn Komturie, James Eredas and several engineers, C   
    Lore Blurb:
    In the depths of the Dawn Komturie, James Eredas and several engineers, Custodes Militants, and scientists oversaw the development and testing of various weapons systems both existing and new.
    The variety of enemies the Order Of Force Majeure were called upon to answer to and the variety of their forces called for many specialized developments. The magical and supernatural had many advantages over the mundane and conventional, and whilst Knights were usually the ones to deal with the most fantastic threats, Custodes of all types had to be able to hold their own, or at least survive in the face of them.
    Now, the Order of Force Majeure were developing three other new lines of weapon systems concurrently.
    Codenamed in development with the names of three of the Major Arcana of esoteric tarot, the first weapon was:
    The Hermit: A powerful pistol that fires 12-gauge shotgun shells. Built as the pinnacle of personal defense weaponry, the standard Hermit comes as a double-barreled pistol that is loadable with up to four shotgun shells, two in each rifled barrel. Somewhat larger and bulky then many other pistols due to its construction, and the need for recoil compensators, nevertheless the pistol is ideally to be fired with both hands, and only by individuals of enhanced strength, or wearing strength-enhancing wargear such as power armor due to the severe recoil. The design is to be used against and be capable of stopping the likes of even a dire bear in its tracks, and its primary disadvantages are its low number of available shots, and short effective range, which can be somewhat extended with sabot slug ammunition.

     
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    Roen got a reaction from Tyler for a status update, It goes against the American storytelling grain to have someone in a situation he can   
    It goes against the American storytelling grain to have someone in a situation he can’t get out of, but I think this is very usual in life.
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